Am I Being Irrational?

So yeah, two posts in two days...  That's how bored I get sitting at work all day.  There aren't too many day drinkers in Hilliard apparently.  Whatever, I get paid regardless....

So anyway, it has come to my attention that I have a situation with my oldest child, Brandon.  I'm gonna spell it out, mostly because I have some really mixed feelings on the situation and would like some outside input.

Brandon is almost 17 and while he looks exactly like his dad, he's got his mom's heart.  He's a good kid.  He gets excellent grades, holds down a damn near full-time job and is just an all around kind soul.  He's a giver.  He's a people pleaser (funny, that's not a word, so says spell check).  He wants to make sure everyone is happy, even if it means he isn't.  He wanted desperately to have a girlfriend, but he's a little on the dorky, awkward side.

Apparently he has a girlfriend now.  I just found out about it a couple of days after I went in to do the thing I'm doing right now.  He came in last week needing some extra money for prom.  Something he never in a million years would want to go to on his own.  I just figured she wanted to go and talked him into it.  No big deal.  Monday, the other Tara came up to get some money from me to pay some of my bills since I'm not allowed to go anywhere but work.  She asked me if I knew Brandon's girlfriend was pregnant.  I had heard rumors of a girl the boys hang out with being pregnant, but I didn't know it was her.

Bottom line is, it's not Brandon's child she's pregnant with.  I did ask Brandon about it to confirm.  He said she is and it's not his, but he wanted to be with her regardless "because he knows how shitty it is growing up without a father".   Ugh.

Being the teen mom that I was back in the day, I know how hard it is to have a child so young.  This girl is even younger than I was.  She lives with her grandparents because her mother tried to kill her when she was a newborn because they told her she was having a boy and she was indeed a girl.  Needless to say, this girl is fucked up emotionally and mentally.

Two weeks ago, $700 went missing in my house and my room was ransacked.  Weird thing, there was $1,000 hidden, but they only took $700.  There was also another $200 in a very out in the open place.  Somebody obviously needed exactly $700 for something.  I'm still upset about it and I know it was someone the boys know because they went straight to my room.  They didn't steal any of the Xboxes, iPods, computers, nothing.  I had thought that maybe someone was paying for an abortion, obviously that wasn't the case.  There's no need to expel upon me your views on abortion, everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

I feel like I'm caught between a rock and a hard place right now.  I've raised my children to be compassionate, caring people, but they've also seen the struggles of a young mom raising two children.  I know he thinks he can be her knight in shining armor.  That he can take care of her and her child and live happily ever after.  How am I supposed to explain to a teenager that's not how it works.  That more than likely she's going to suck him dry for every penny he has and move on to the next best thing when it comes along.  That he won't be able to go off to the military and then to college and do all the wonderful things he has lined up for himself.  That she'll be the one holding him back....  All because he's trying to do what's right in his 17 year old mind.....

I talked to my mom about it.  She was no help.  What do you guys think?  I know I need to sit down and talk to him, but I just feel so out of the loop right now not being at home doing what needs to get done there right now....  And he's a teenager, they don't listen, they're so short sighted about everything I just don't think he's going to get it until it's too late and he's too involved....