So Evan's attorney just emailed both of us and said that if our communication doesn't get better, she's going to order us both into parental counseling. What the fuck? I'm trying to communicate with him, but every time I do, he starts a battle of some sort. Last week it was doctors this week it's that since Evan is with a babysitter and he's home, he should be able to pick him up at whatever time he wants on the days that he is supposed to pick him up at 4 and start his parenting time. His argument is that he'd rather be spending quality time with the kid than have him with the sitter. Well, it's MY time, so shouldn't the kid be doing what I arrange?
If I didn't think that Jordan was going off on some weird religious trip (which he is all the sudden) and his girlfriend wasn't a complete psycho bitch, maybe I'd consider otherwise, but I don't think he should be able to come and get him at any point he wants during the day. I'm the one paying the sitter, not him, and I'm not going to get a discount because Jordan decided to come at 11 one day and 4 the next. The girl has to expect some sort of normalcy for her schedule and our payment arrangement, which I can respect, but here he is, fucking things all up again. Ugh.
So the opinion that I want here is, what is co-parenting counseling going to do for the two of us? I'm reading about it online and it's basically for divorced people who have children old enough to know what's going on and that their lives are being changed. E has never seen us together and will always remember us living separately. I don't bad mouth Jordan around E ever, but I'm quite sure they're not extending the same attitude at their house. What good could come from this kind of counseling? The problem isn't really between Jordan and I. It's because Jordan has his bitch chirping in his ear 24/7 creating issues to distract from the fact she's a dirty pirate hooker. When they were separated, Jordan and I had no problems communicating, but as soon as they got back together, the problems started again. Unfortunately she's pregnant with his kid (but wouldn't it totally be funny if it wasn't???) so she's not going away, but SHE is the problem.
I have done nothing but bend over backwards for him thus far to make sure everyone was happy and then he goes and starts all this shit with me, wanting sole custody and all that crap. It's fucking exhausting. I can't afford the thousands of dollars in attorney fees I'm accruing and I sure as hell can't afford counseling, not to mention, when do I have the time for that? I just started a 13 day work stretch that includes me working BOTH jobs 6 of those days.... To pay attorneys.... Because of him.....
Thoughts? Been there done that?
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Even though your son is little now, he will eventually understand what is going on. I'm for the counseling.
My parents split when I was 3 and although I never really remember them being together, I do remember them fighting ALL. THE. TIME. That has a serious effect on a child.
Besides, it will come out in counseling that he is the crazy one as well as the fact that it's the girlfriend causing problems.
Bottom line is, you want what is best for Evan.
You're right Christy, they will see what a crazy he is, but isn't that what the guardian at litem is for? Now I have to pay another person to evaluate the situation and put their two cents in on everything? Ugh. I have never picked a fight in front of the baby, but there have been several times of Jordan and his bitch coming at me screaming while handing him off to me. I was calm and walked away, mostly because I don't want the kid seeing that shit, I remember when my parents did it.....
Sick situation. I have my doubts about counseling in general. I am sure your ex will pretend to be this perfect dude while there. Good luck working this all out.
The way I look at counseling(in general) is really dependent upon how you view it before you go, if you're negative about it, you're gonna get negative results(go when you're ready, not when someone tells you to go), if you go in hopeful with a positive attitude toward it and keep an open mind, then i think you allow yourself to benefit from having a 3rd party put in their two cents, sometimes it can be kind of refreshing to get a different point of view about things.
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